There is no additional fee for performing a special ceremony,
however we do not provide supplies that may be needed for them.
NOTE: These are all speaking ceremonies with no music.
CEREMONY adds more interest to the ceremony, is easy to include children if desired, and provides a lasting sand sculpture as a keepsake. This
ceremony is usually done after the exchange of rings and legal documents can be signed at the same time.
Different colors of sand are poured from cups into a container at different intervals to create a sand sculpture that can last a lifetime. This ceremony is chosen over the Unity ceremony often as it is better for outdoor situations and the sand will retain it's freshness, while candles can melt and yellow over time. Children can easily participate in this ceremony by adding additional colors of sand for each child.
The UNITY HEART is a relatively new ceremony which is a mix of the candle and hand ceremonies creating a work of art to remember your wedding and
vows for your lifetime. The heart comes in four pieces and are put together during the ceremony representing the qualities the husband and wife bring into the marriage.
The traditional UNITY CEREMONY is great for indoor weddings. It is usually done at the end of the wedding after the pronouncement as husband and wife, before being introduced as Mr. & Mrs. [If windy or wet, consider the Sand or Heart Ceremony above.]
When Mothers of the Bride and Groom are escorted in, they each light individual candles for the couple before being seated. Near the end of the ceremony, the couple lights the central candle from the smaller candles representing two joined together in marriage. This is an old and short ceremony which can include one or two children if desired.
Two good friends or relatives of the bride and groom take turns addressing the Couple. This is considered a 'reading' and is done just before the vows. There is also a short version on the Readings page where one reader or the Officiant addresses both.
[Bride's name], please face [Groom's name],
and hold his hands, palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you.
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and vibrant with love, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to love you all the days of his life. These are the hands that will work along side yours, as together you build your future, as you laugh and cry, as you share your innermost secrets and dreams. These are the hands you will place with expectant joy against your stomach, until he too, feels his child stir within you. These are the hands that look so large and strong, yet will be so gentle as he holds your baby for the first time. These are the hands that will work long hours for you and your new family. These are that hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness. These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes: tears of sorrow and tears of joy. These are the hands that will comfort you in illness, and hold you when fear or grief wrack your mind. These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into his eyes: eyes that are filled completely with his overwhelming love and desire for you.
[Groom's name], please hold [Bride's name]’s hands, palms up, where you may see the gift that they are to you.
These are the hands of your best friend, smooth, young and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she pledges her love and commitment to you all the days of her life. These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love, soothing them through illness and hurt, supporting and encouraging them along the way, and knowing when it is time to let go. These are the hands that will massage tension from you neck and back in the evenings after you’ve both had a long hard day. These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times. These are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick, or console you when you are grieving. They are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness. These are the hands that will hold you in joy and excitement and hope, each time she tells you that you are to have another child, that together you have created a new life. These are the hands that will give you support as she encourages you to reach for your dreams. Together as a team, everything you wish for can be realized.
BROOM is a very old tradition that
originated in Southern Africa. It is done at the end of the wedding after the pronouncement as husband and wife.
Broom sizes vary. Most choose to purchase their own broom and decorate it themselves. Be sure it either coordinates with your wedding colors, or if you plan to hold on to it as a keepsake, the colors you will decorate with in your home. Using your own broom can also be a great bonding activity for the brides-maids, perhaps the night, or week before the wedding. Feel free to use bows, flowers (artificial or real), or other trinkets to make it unique. It should be decorative, but something pleasing enough to keep in your home.
Minister calls attendants and family to form a semi-circle around the couple. He then moves the broom in a circle while he tells of the origin of the broom ceremony. The Minister waves the broom over the Bride and Groom's heads as an additional blessing and then place the broom on the floor. Bride and groom hold crossed hands and everyone is asked to count 1, 2, 3, Jump, and they cross the boundary into married life. They are then introduced as Mr. and Mrs.
The COINS (Arras) CEREMONY is a Spanish/Filipino tradition, this symbolic ritual has been passed on by the Spanish colonizers. The Unity coins are presented by a friend or relative or coin bearer to the Bride who places them in the Groom's cupped hands at the beginning of the ceremony. The coins are then placed on a tray and handed to an assistant to be held until later in the ceremony. Near the end of the ceremony the box and coins are given to the officiant who places the unity coins in the box and hands them to the Groom. The Groom will then pour the unity coins into the Bride's cupped hands and places the box on top. In times past the coins represented his giving her control as his mistress of all his worldly goods. However today they represent the couples willingness to embrace life and unite harmoniously as husband and wife. They agree to face the world together in a mutually supportive way and to affirm the vows they have taken. These tokens become a "Wedding Souvenir" or "Marriage Memory".
The FAMILY CEREMONY is done after the exchange of rings as a way of including children. Often marriage is viewed as the union of two individuals. In reality, marriage is much broader. We recognize the merging of families and the additional love and responsibility that family and friends bring to therelationship. The Children are called by name to come forward. The couple says a few words and perhaps vows and presents them with a gift – usually a special Family Medallion, or perhaps special charms or rings.
Outdoor temperature must be at least 70 degrees.
According to an American Indian Legend: If anyone desires a wish to come true they must capture a butterfly and whisper that wish to it. Since a butterfly can make no sound, the butterfly can not reveal the wish to anyone but the Great Spirit who hears and sees all. In gratitude for giving the beautiful butterfly its freedom, the Great Spirit grants the wish. So, according to legend, by making a wish and giving the butterfly its freedom, the wish will be taken to the heavens and be granted.
For a general release: We have gathered to grant this couple all our best wishes and are about to set these butterflies free in trust that all these wishes will be granted.
For the couple release: Bride and Groom will whisper their secret wish to the butterflies and release them to the heavens.
Our recommended butterfly
company is: Butterfly